When stuff goes down…

Any of this seem familiar

Sshh! Can you trust them?

First Stop

1. Youthworkers

2. Counsellors and School Counsellors

People who can help….

This is the tricky stuff……the stuff that is really hard to talk about……….but you need some answers

Any of this seem familiar?

‘Not feeling the love, angry, crying, twitchy, nervous, scared, everything is just too much, feeling low, depression, anxiety, drugs, alcohol….’

Hey, it’s all good. Keep reading for some places that are easy to contact and where they are totally here for you or your mates.

“Where do I go first – I don’t even know what’s wrong with me? And I don’t want to look like an idiot……”

First stop

Feeling a bit scared?
Don’t really know what to say to them?

Here’s the trick, take someone you really trust and get them to do the first bit of talking to get things started. Remember the following people are trained to help you – so they do this every day!

Your doctor (called GP’s) – give them a call, set up an appointment, fee?

Youth Workers

A really good first stop are youth workers. Especially when you have no idea how to tackle what’s going on for ya.

– there are some pretty rad youth workers in Waimakarirri, really easy to talk to. They know who to go to, and will often go with you to support you.

Rangiora and Kaiapoi

Wellbeing North Canterbury phone: (03) 310 6375

Matt's mobile: 027 3221 601
Phillippe's phone:  (03) 313 4997
Jonathon's mobile: 027 8588 737

Oxford  

Emily is super easy to talk to ands based out at Oxford, and you can drop in to see her. 37 Main Street Oxford, next door to the craft shop. Phone her on (03) 3123 006

Also Diane works part time and you can call her on (03) 312 4736

School Counsellors

They’re right at your doorstep, five days a week! Here’s a list of them for you. Remember if you are scared that everyone will find out – just ask for their confidentiality rule.

Other people who can help

Here is a list of some youth services locally…..it’s always good to know what is out there – before you need it!

Counsellors

There are local youth friendly counsellors in Waimakariri. They can help with heaps of different stuff – so just give them a call, remember they deal with this stuff everyday so don’t be embarrassed or scared. They would love to hear from you! Tips for choosing a counsellor: relate.org.nz

Family Works

Who: Kathryn, Beverly, Frances (she travels to Oxford),

Where: Counsellors can meet you either at their office or even at your school.

Cost: just chat to them about that – its really cost effective

How: ring (03) 313 8588 and speak to Catherine Collings – she’s the ‘intake Coordinator’.

Youth Brief Intervention Coordinator

What: sometimes called the Youth BIC Service, this is a free service for youth who have mild to moderate mental health concerns.

Who: Victoria

Where: Contact Victoria for a place near you!

Cost: Freebie!

How: Jump in and see your health nurse or doctor and they will chat to you about seeing Victoria.  Make sure you remember the name of her service as doctors deal with a lot of services.

North Canterbury Youth Drug & Alcohol Service

What: as ya gather from the name this is all about when drugs and/or alcohol are a bit of an issue.

Who: Michelle and Liza

Where: Super easy to see them, they can come to you or you can go to them!

Cost: Freebie!

How: PH/TXT Michelle on 027 4511 456 or Liza on 027 2154 65 or phone (03) 313 1056

District Truancy Service

What: No, this is not about a person running around catching you when you are supposed to be at school!! Most of the time the schools and parents will contact him when you don’t show up to school a lot. He isn’t scary at all – he’s really good at sussing out what is stopping you from going to school and working with ya to sort stuff.

Who: Karl

Where: Contact Ian, he can come to you.

Cost:Freebie!

How: Call Karl on (03) 313 9091 or 027 227 1344

Big Brothers Big Sisters of North Canterbury

What: This is a pretty cool idea actually! Random, but very cool! Basically they will match you up with someone older who will hang out and support you.

Who: Natalie

Cost: Feebie!

How: Just give Natalie a bell on (03) 310 7004 or 027 2713 405 and she will chat to you about it some more.

Stopping Violence Services – Enabling Youth

When you have been told ‘seriously, you have anger issues’ here's what to do.

What: If you or someone you reckon is getting on the violent and angry side a bit too often, get in contact with this service – sooner rather than later! Checkout their website angermanagement.org.nz it’s got some pretty onto it examples on its homepage.

Who: Deborah

Cost: Freebie!

How: Just give Deborah a call on (03) 365 6266, she’s easy to talk to and knows her stuff.

Yup, family violence definitely is ‘not ok’. Anytime. Anywhere. No joke.

In an Emergency Call 111 – and ask for the police. Your life is important – enough said.

Christchurch Womens Refuge Crisisline 0800 1733844 (0800 1REFUGE)

Support: There are three refuges that operate in North Canterbury. Just call one of the numbers below and have a chat. They are really easy to talk to and know a lot about stuff.

Christchurch Womens Refuge

Rural Refuge Service – Celine (03) 313 9296

Otautahi Women’s Refuge

Crisisline (03) 364 7706

Freephone 0800 117 474

Battered Women’s Refuge Trust

Heather (03) 327 9864 or 027 288 4768

Gay and Lesbian Youth Support

Jump straight to this link because it rocks! thepulse.org.nz

When you are in trouble with the law…

When you have to go to court…

If you have to appear in the Rangiora District Court they have ‘duty solicitors’ which are there from 9am. You just get in line and wait for your turn. It’s really important to get someone to be there for you, so look at taking a mate or contact one of the youthworkers above.

The most important thing is to get support – you never ever have to go through anything alone J

Sexual abuse

Emergency numbers

Police Child Abuse Unit – (03) 363 7400

Child Youth and Family – 0508 326 459 for help in reporting any child abuse including sexual abuse.

The Sexual Abuse Centre

Ph 03 365 3626

159a Gloucester St, Chch

Counselling and support to for survivors of sexual abuse.

Other services:

Start Inc

free counselling and servce for sexually abused children and youth. www.starthealing.org

Ph 03 355 4414

Te Puna Oranga

A Maori sexual abuse conselling service for adults and youth. Ph: 033818472

Other Services

CCS Disability Action

(03) 313 8312

Cathie

SibSupport

Programme for anyone 8-18 who have a bro or a sister with a disability/special need. 0508 236 236 then press 2.

Family Support Agency

What:

Who : whoever answers the phone!

Ph: 313 3377 0800 188038

War Memorial, corner of High and Albert streets.

Links

skylight.org.nz it’s got stuff about how to deal when you are going through a rough patch.

mherc.org.nz this is the Mental Health Directory for Canterbury. Have a browse through it to see who is around to support you.

‘What do I do if one of my friends is saying they want to die? Or they are really scaring me with how depressed they are. ‘

Tell an adult right now. Do it.

This is too much for you to take on – even if they say ‘don’t tell anyone’, and even if you think they won’t really do it – it doesn’t matter. If someone is threatening to take their own life they are in a scary place and need support. There are heaps of people out there trained to help them out.

Get your adult (or if you are an adult!) to call

Psychiatric Emergency Services on 0800 920 092

Do not be afraid by the name. They are the best people to call in this situation.

‘What do I say when they pick up the phone?’

Calmly tell them what your situation is and they will guide you from there. Remember this is what they do – they are the experts. Be firm that you need help.

‘What do I do if my friend has drunk too much and won’t wake up? Or what if they have taken something?’

Put them in the recovery position. a1firstaid.co.nz  this link has a description.

Dial 111.

Never ever be afraid to call 111. Safety comes first. Always.

Once you have talked to the emergency services, call an adult. (or if you are already an adult (!), call someone for support and who is sober and capable.)

alcohol.org.nz have a look at this link – it’s better to know your stuff before you actually need it J

Text bullying

This is serious stuff. Heaps of us have done it – but what we don’t realise is you can get in big trouble – huge trouble. With the police. Yikes.

Here are a few tips if you are getting the bash down on the cellphone.

• Change your phone number. Simple.

Ok, so everyone has your number and it will way too hard to let everyone know your new number, right? Blah blah. Someone is beating you down and you don’t need that in your life. Get a new number, and give it only to your real mates – not to the masses. Take control.

• If you recognise the number – don’t open the message – just delete it.

I know this is really hard to do – cause you kinda want to know what it says. But you know its going to be bad – so don’t let them have that control over ya. DELETE IT.

• Ok now I’m going to completely contradict myself J but if you are getting rampaged by heaps of just plain nasty texts, save them cause they are evidence. Now, tell an adult. Yeah, I know, tough to do, but no one has the right to be bringing you down.
• Don’t answer back. Why waste your money on them? Remember if you text back something nasty, then you can get in trouble.

If you are sending just plain nasty texts:

• Why are you spending so much time on someone you obviously don’t like?!!!!
• It is the most horrible feeling to hear that knock at ya door – and it’s the police. Not just embarrassing, but then your parents will find out (and most of your street!).
• Ask yourself – do you really mean to make this persons life a complete misery? I know that heaps of you will say ‘sure do!!’ because usually it’s a two way street – but just remember, everyone reacts to misery in a different way………not cool to know that you are responsible for that……..